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I wanted so desperately to be loved, so I threw myself into following all the rules and suppressing my sexual urges. Unfortunately, my sex drive is a powerful thing, and I finally broke down and had “penis in vagina” sex for the first time with a guy I’d been dating for a month. After a year of us being great platonic friends and both of us being in therapy, we started dating. I’m talking about breaking down sobbing and screaming while he was still inside me. He would always hold me and tell me it was gonna be ok, that I was safe. Two years into my relationship with my boyfriend, I came to him because I realized I wanted a girlfriend too. It wasn’t easy, I still had a lot of emotional baggage to cope with and he had to deal with the insecurity of his partner wanting to be with other people while still being with him.So if anything, my story should provide anecdotal evidence that purity culture doesn’t always produce the results they’re hoping for.Many of the people who responded to Katelyn Beaty’s tweet shared how there’s no need for us to be “melodramatic,” and the #IKDGstories team has also received similar thoughts through tumblr and twitter.Katelyn’s tweet, though, is a good place to start talking about a really important concept that all of us– those of us who are critical of purity culture and those not– needs to understand moving forward.My introduction to sex education was not presented as something that loving partners did to care for each other, but rather something horrific and ugly that a man did to a woman or child.I learned very quickly that sex was shameful, and not something you talked about openly.at nineteen- and even as I read it- as a wide eyed girl longing for a picture perfect marriage in my future, something was missing for me.While I still held on tightly to the rules of purity culture, I was clear on many of the ways race affected my life.

To my fellow LGBTQIA friends, you’re beautiful and perfect just the way you are.I turned into a queer polyamorous kinky liberal feminist stripper that has a lot of sex with a lot of different people. I’m very grateful that I had the privilege of being able to work through the shit that Joshua Harris piled on me, because I know that there are thousands of people that still hate themselves due to his books.And to those people, I just want to say that I’m sorry the church fucked you up like this., the ideals presented weren’t foreign to me, it just put a more romantic spin on the whole “save yourself for marriage or else no good Christian man will ever want your whore ass” bullshit. It’s misogyny cloaked in religious language programmed to make women hate themselves and hate one of the main things that makes them who they are. He took me in when the church looked down on me for losing my virginity, my ministry kicking me out, and my “friends” slipping away.It seemed like a really good idea at the time, because I was in college and involved in a Christian ministry where women were constantly critiqued for the style of clothing they wore, the way they spent their time, what men they spent their time with, and if they were “flirting” too much. He spent many late nights convincing me not to harm myself, that it was all going to be ok. That man is the main reason I’m alive and decently happy today. I had the worst panic attacks at the beginning because I was convinced our relationship would fall apart and he would leave me because that’s what Joshua Harris and my parents and the church and everyone else said would happen. And eventually I figured out I was anything but a good straight monogamous Christian girl.

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